This is one of my favourite, and insightful coaching questions that I use both with my clients and with myself. What makes this question so powerful is the realisation that much of what we hold to […]
Reacting vs. Responding: Mastering Your Emotions Have you ever reacted to something, only to regret it later? Perhaps sent a passive-aggressive email to someone who’s irritated you? Or snapped at someone? Or even made a significant […]
A few months ago I wrote a blog on How to say no, because this issue comes up so often for people that it seemed an obvious topic to focus on. But what about times when it […]
A leader I was working with recently was struggling with a team member. He talked about the colleague’s performance and how it was getting worse. When I asked him what he’d done to address this with […]
In my leadership and team development work, empathy naturally comes up a lot. It’s recognised by most leaders as a core ability in today’s workplace. But when we discuss empathy, what many leaders realise is that […]
A few years ago, I pulled up at a petrol station (this is pre-EV), filled up my car and then went in to pay. Once inside, I spotted a few bits of shopping I needed so […]
“How are you feeling?” “Overwhelmed,” came the reply from one of my clients last month. A story I’m hearing more and more often – and have experienced myself from time to time over the last couple […]
My husband is a dog lover. I’m a cat lover. Why am I telling you this? Because my cat Flintoff’s behaviour regularly causes my hubby to take things personally. Examples include: Flintoff turning around and walking […]
A few months ago, I was coaching a client and at the end of one of her sessions, we agreed she would spend some time reflecting on what she wanted and write a list of goals. […]
You know when you behave in a way that doesn’t feel quite right? It might be that role that you’ve accepted, even though deep down you know it won’t make you happy. Or that person who […]
“We’re just never going to get on,” a client said to me recently about her boss. As soon as she said it, I spotted a limiting belief – given away by the word ‘never’. “I’ve tried everything,” […]
In conversations I’ve had with clients who are overwhelmed, stressed and too busy, we almost always discover that they struggle to say no. It’s almost become an automatic habit to say yes to any request – […]
The other day I was discussing with a client how she could explain her preferred communication style to her new boss. She has an introversion preference and was worried that he would misinterpret her quietness as […]
Have you ever felt out of kilter with some of the people around you – be they work colleagues, friends or family? Does it seem that the way they approach or think about things can be a bit odd? It […]
Everyone is talking about returning to the office and how it will work when some people are in the office, some are not, and some are both. Hybrid working, like the words ‘furlough’, ‘double-jabbed’ and ‘covid-secure’, […]
You only have to listen to the news or read social media to see that there are so many issues where people are trying to persuade others round to their way of thinking. Whether its politicians, […]
Over the years, I’ve noticed that many of us (including myself) have tended to focus on our areas of weakness – the bits of our job that we need to get better at in order to […]
